![]() This is particularly true for night feeds which you really take issue with. Or rather, not breastfeeding on demand is associated with early cessation of breastfeeding. Breastfeeding on demand helps breastfeeding.Related to the aforementioned point, feeding (breast or bottle) on a strict schedule is associated with a host of negative outcomes including, but not limited to, cognitive deficits, increased risk of jaundice, and failure to thrive so really you’re recommending parents put their babies lives at risk, asshole.A newborn has a stomach the size of a pea, so unless you’re recommending parents starve their baby, you feed them when they are hungry, not according to your idea of when they should be hungry. ![]() This is recommended not just by attachment parent advocates, but by doctors, lactation consultants, researchers, etc. Breastfeeding on demand (really this should be “feeding on demand”).Sooo… Let’s take a look at the so-called “perils” of responsive parenting once again… If we accept the crap about this type of parenting being unsustainable (though I ask you how we as humans survived if this was so untenable given it’s how we’ve parented for hundreds of thousands of years), we still need to look at what you’re really saying about these methods. (Just as if you don’t bedshare you don’t condemn your child to pain and suffering for the rest of his life.) If you breastfeed on demand it does NOT mean you will give your child, as you put it, another glass of milk right when you’ve sat down to dinner or that if you bedshare or babywear your 10-year-old will rule the house making you drive him half-way across town whenever he wants. Amazingly children change as they grow, their needs differ and in turn, we respond to them as they are at that certain point. You are a grown adult with a fully functioning brain (although this is perhaps arguable at this point) and yet you fail to grasp that NO ONE is suggesting that how we treat our infants will be how we treat our children for the rest of their lives or that being responsive equals being permissive. She knows when she’s playing with a younger child that she needs to be gentler, that that baby might need some help with some tasks, that the baby might need mom around more than she does in short, she knows that this baby is limited in ways that she, as an older child, is not. Yes, that’s right, my CHILD understands babies better than you idiots. Last time she thought a baby didn’t need different responses from his parents than a 10-year-old was when she could barely talk, couldn’t put a shirt on, and still required me to wipe her ass. If you believe this crap, I’m amazed you’re able to get dressed in the morning for my 4-year-old has a better understanding of the different needs of different individuals across time and development than you. I have one question though:Īre you kidding or are you seriously that fucking stupid? In short, people view it as untenable, unsustainable. I shit you not, that’s her argument.Īs I said, this is hardly new or unique, it is a very prevalent attitude towards any type of responsive parenting (attachment, evolutionary, gentle, etc.). Apparently attachment parents are so concerned over every fuss, they never learn to respond to their child’s needs. You also can’t get anything else done when babywearing, according to Ms. Babies who are worn will apparently NEVER agree to go down on a blanket and we all know that’s the time for some more baby-making. ![]() How are you going to have sex if you’ve always got a baby strapped to you? Honestly, this is the concern. There’s also talk about needing to teach them to “self-soothe” and all that crap because, don’t you know, all babies can sleep through the night by 4 months of age if you leave them alone and don’t respond when they wake. The horror!!! Oh – it also means babies feed on demand and, as per point 1, that’s apparently awful and mom will pay the price for the rest of her life. become used to sleeping with a warm body and heartbeat next to them”. I actually thought she might be kidding as she described the perils of co-sleeping as, “ In short: As a mother your life will be FOREVER ruined and you will never recover. It has the awful consequence of not putting baby on a schedule, mom can’t get things done, dads or non-breastfeeding parents can’t feed the baby and baby might just want mom for a period, babies sleep is disrupted if they feed at night, and so on. She’s not the only one, though, it’s the same rhetoric heard over and over by the likes of people like Gina Ford or Tizzie Hall or frankly most people trying to tell parents their way is the only way. It’s called “The Perils of Attachment Parenting” and in it, the author – a parenting consultant – decries how attachment parenting is bad for families. ![]() Yesterday I was sent a link to a completely asinine article in The Atlantic, a publication I usually quite enjoy. ![]()
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